At The Tots’ Nursery School settling-in is about establishing the right routine for you and your child. 

We understand separation anxiety from both a parent's/carer's and child's view.  We understand that the transition into childcare can take time and is different for every family.  We aim to support parents/carers to help their children settle as easily as possible by giving consideration to the individual needs and circumstances of each child and their families. 

Children develop in individual ways and at varying rates and that is why we offer a settling in procedure that is flexible to meet those needs. We maintain a safe, stimulated and happy environment for children and to feel secure and comfortable with all staff. We also want parents/carers to have confidence in both their children's well-being and the team members, with the child being able to benefit from what the Nursery School has to offer. 

Before registering, join a social event, arrangement and 'Walk and Talk' session and talk to other parents about what to expect.

After registering your child, we will arrange to meet with you to discuss your requirements for settling-in.  

Settling-in can take shape in various ways:

• A few short session on the day that your child is going to be coming to us.  This can be over a couple of weeks.
• A few short sessions over a week on each day that your child will be coming to us.  This could be over a week.
• A few short or longer sessions ad hoc to see what suits.  

We are always aware that children have preferences and respond differently to different staff members.  We want a happy child, happy family and happy team.  So, view the settling-in sessions as a way to work out what is best.

Our guide for a calm settling-in period

A 'See You Later' Ritual 

A 'see you later' ritual means that you set a routine for a stress-free drop-off.  It builds trust between you and your child. Saying 'see you later', the same way each time, signals your intention to leave.  Once you have completed the ritual, then it’s time to go.    Don’t mix signals by hesitating or reacting differently in the moment. 

Remember – this is a routine that is built up over time and needs commitment and reinforcement each time you go. If you use the same ritual when with family or other childcare providers, this will be the same.  

A Comforter, Blanket or Familiar Toy

Bring along something that your little one can use to settle them. This might be a special comforter, blanket or toy that they are used to having at home. 

Remember – if they don’t bring a comforter, they might have a favourite toy that is ours and can be something that they see each time they come to the Nursery School. Our staff will let you know, and it can be something we will have for them each time they come.

Resilience 

Your child will be aware of your mood and signals if you are anxious about dropping them off. We recommend taking a few minutes to pause after arriving before you bring your child inside. Pause and create a calm mind and atmosphere so that you and your child can feel secure and happy. 

Remember – if you’re not happy, it is likely your child won’t be. A few moments to calm down can make a big difference. 

Talking

Talk to us about how to make the transition as comfortable as possible. We encourage you to talk to us about anything that helps your child. 

Remember - we are here to care for you and your child. Working together is very important. 

Dated: 12 September 2024 Review date: December 2025